Wednesday, August 10, 2011

Lainey- She learns for him, will not leave him

She learns for him, will not leave him


So much speculation and it's been going on for years that she will finally leave him because he won't, ever, change. But do you know the lengths she went through to get him, and keep him? Did you know she enrolled in classes at university, not because she was interested for herself, but because she wanted to be able to talk to him about...things? She wanted to be able to keep up. She wanted HIM to know/believe/think she could keep up. She worships his brain. She wanted to make sure that he was finding her brain adequately stimulating.


They say that he's been trying to get out of there. He hasn't tried. There has been no attempt. It's kinda futile. First because, even if he were to want to bail, everyone in his life would be against it, and has warned him of the consequences, but also because she has told him straight up, on several occasions, "I will never leave you". This one doesn't get enough credit for her tenacity.

Top suspect: Jennifer Garner and Ben Affleck (revealed at smut soiree)

54 comments:

duffgrl said...

"they say he's been trying to get out of there"...could this be referring to Ted's Lucinda/Cubby blind vice? The same couple? I have no clue.

duffgrl said...

Maybe Matthew Broderick/ SJP? Or Ben Affleck/ Jennifer Garner?

Rita said...

Who went to university while courting a dude? And now his family and friends won't let him leave the relationship for he's in too deep... Maybe because they have kids?

Also notice the speculation that she will finally leave him because HE WILL NEVER CHANGE. So not Affleck/Garner, which would've been my first guess.

Her tenacity, worships his brain. If I didn't know any better, it would have to do with Sean Penn. but he is already divorced.

Any still married, cheating horn-dog, out there is worshipped by his woman for his brains?

ad00744a-c3a7-11e0-a679-000bcdcb5194 said...

Pretty sure it's Ben Affleck/Jen Gardner. I remember a few years ago Jen going on and on about how smart Ben was and how she wanted to learn more about politics to keep up. Wouldn't surprise me if she took classes so she'd know more. She just gushed all over him when they first got together. This is sad.

TMS074 said...

I think maybe Sacha Baron Cohen/Isla Fisher? She studied Judaism for 3 years before converting, so she could marry him ("worships his brain"), he's apparently very smart, and his family is hugely religious - hence they wouldn't allow him to leave her. Also "credit" for her tenacity may refer to the shopoholic movie she was in?

Rita said...

TMS074 - That is an AMAZING guess! I think they are still engaged not married, hence the lack of precision on relationship status, and have 2 kids together. Therefore, Sasha and his religious believes, as well as his family, will not leave his kids.

Dominique said...

I think this is Jessica Alba.

She's married to that loser Cash Warren, who went to Yale. She's spoken a lot about how she wants her kids to go to college, and how important that is and how she never got the chance. There has been rumors of him cheating on her, even with scum like Lindsey Lohan! He is a producer - launching Verso Entertainment, a movie production company that focuses on documentaries, and more importantly, Apoko, which helps celebrities and professional athletes navigate social media. His investors would KILL him if he left the perpetually pregnant Jessica Alba.

She's also said that she'd "cut" a woman who tried to steal Cash away, implying that it wouldn't be his fault.

I think it fits -
(1) Jessica has said how much she loves him and gushed over him.
(2) she thinks her Yale grad husband is smarter than her.
(3) he has cheated (allegedly) on Jessica before
(4) he can't get out of the relationship as it would hurt him financially with his businesses
(5) He also has 1 kid with her and another on the way.

TMS074 said...

I still think it's SBC and Isla Fisher - he was listed in Entertainment Weekly as one of the 50 smartest people in Hollywood (he has a master's degree from Cambridge). I also read somewhere that she said the divorce of her parents was very traumatic for her, and that if kids are involved parents should always work it out and stay together.

julie said...

I think it's Affleck and Garner. There was an interview a couple of years ago, I think Allure or InStyle, and she was studying while they were doing her makeup. PoliSci books were shown in one of the pics. But when Lainey says "university" like that, it is in the manner they say it in England, so maybe SBC and Isla OR Gwyneth. How long can she keep that marriage up? And she said that she liked English Men better because they were smarter.

Muse said...

Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin? Lainey has mentioned that they've had problems for the past few years. Also, whenever she writes about them, she will write HIM/HER.

893b4666-ba01-11e0-946e-000bcdcb2996 said...

Just throwing this out there - Tom Cruise and Katie Holmes, perhaps?

I don't think this would be Sasha/Isla because there has not been years of speculation that she would leave him...
Thanks!
Laura

Rita said...

Laura - If this was about Tom C. and Katie H., I sort of doubt Lainey would make it a blind. Her snark of their relationship, as well as her doubts of it being real, are quite often apparent. She is one of the few bloggers that was not afraid to post about Scientology reports of slavery and abuse.

That being said, this speaks more about the fact that Sasha will not change, and now cannot dump Isla for whatever reason. Although I like this guess, I'm liking even the Gwen Paltrow and Chris Martin guess even better!

Gweneth does seem to try very hard and accommodate him, and he seems extremely bored with everything she does. No matter how hard she works, and the kind of friends she surrounds herself with, Chris seems very dissociated from his family life, and more precisely, his wife.

aimeo said...

sbc and isla. she said the line I will never ever leave you in wedding crashers

Cathy said...

There's no way this is Gwen and Chris, since he's not known for being particularly bright and she thinks of herself as being smarter than everyone anyways.

Ditte said...

Great guesses everyone! But I like the Isla Fisher guess best. The only thing that seems off is the thing about him never changing...Is Cohen known to sleep around?

Fifth Year said...

Isla Fisher and Cohen have been together since 2002, so they could be considered to be together for awhile (Hollywood stds at least). There is a quote somewhere around about how she would be do absolutely anything to be united in marriage with him.

Re the will never change: is this in relation to the many characters he plays? Some kind of reverse clue? Just a guess, trying to make the only part that doesn't work fit! The biggest point is that it does not say anywhere what his "not changing" is in reference to

TMS074 said...

Ditte...that kind of throws me off too...I don't think he's got a bad rep for that either. But I was thinking, does "won't ever change" mean he's sleeping around necessarily? Maybe it's that he just treats her badly...I don't know! I need some answers.

Stacey said...

I actually like the Jessica Alba guess the best, esp b/c there have been cheating rumors on Cash's part. They were recently photographed visiting Harvard for his reunion. And it would be hard for him to leave her due to the company investors.

SBC and Isla is a good guess too, but I've never heard of discord between them and why would there be consequences for leaving her? He has all the power in the relationship. But I wouldn't rule them out.

Still, my favorite is the Alba guess from Dominique. Lainey always seems to get inside info on her too.

Liz said...

I like Jen Garner/Ben Affleck, Gwen and Chris, or Jessica Alba and Cash Warren. Also, what about SJP and Matthew Broderick? We need more clues!

sistah2 said...

i like the guesses here, but wouldn't it be well-known news if any of these stars enrolled in a college & took classes? I feel like we'd know about that.

Cyn said...

I keep thinking about Melanie Griffith and Antonio Banderas, although I don't know of any rumors pertaining to his cheating on her.

blurry vice said...

I think Jen Garner and Ben Affleck fit for this. Everyone would turn on him if he left her.
I also like the Gwyneth and Chris Martin guess.
I wouldn't have thought of Isla Fisher and SBC... I guess it could be them but I don't really think so.

Clancy said...

Isla and Sacha got married in March 2010.

Ditte said...

@Fifth Year: Good call...Could be a hint to all the strange characters from SBC's movies. I'm not familiar with Laineys blinds. Are there usually so few hints?

Rita said...

I still don't believe this is Jen Garner and Ben Affleck. One, for most of bloggers would be too happy to report, I don't believe Jen Garner is well liked, unfortunately on all fronts (Ben's family and friends don't like to hang out with her either...) So I don't really think that his family would tell him to stick with it. They already seem to lead separate lives, so as long as the kids have both parents in their lives, I think a divorce is very approachable.

pomme said...

Please not another Bennifer blind item! since 5 years,there are many rumours of split between them

Megan said...

The ben afflek jen garner might work...there have been rumors he has his sights set on politics - and if he is getting ANY traction in that department, it wouldnt look good if he left his wife....I could totally see his advisors/family etc throwing a FIT if he did something that looked bad......

dont know enough about cohen or fisher....alba could be a good guess though...i think his family is very well connected and he went to harvard, is in business...she's always kinda defensive about herself smarts in interviews and from reading multiple interviews of her she doesnt seem to have a healthy sense of self. Plus wasnt it well know that he cheated on her and she stayed with him? ugh

pomme said...

woody allen and soon-yi? it's an uncool guess but unless it's different

Leens said...

Jessica Simpson? Eric Johnson went to Yale and she's been known to be desperate to keep a man. Remember the lengths she went to to keep John Mayer?

Gaylen said...

The first line seems to eliminate a lot of people. How many people have really spent a lot of time speculating when/if Isla will FINALLY leave SBC? Unless they are an obsessive fan of hers, probably not that many. They don't seem to be the type that tabloids would focus on, either. I can't see speculation about them selling too many rags or generating much website traffic.

Alba and Warren pass that test. As far as I know, the consensus has been that he wouldn't have stuck around long if she hadn't gotten pregnant, he's a use-her-and-lose-her type. But a quick Google search for 'Jessica Alba enrolls in classes' comes up with her taking cooking lessons. Unless he has a culinary background, that doesn't seem like she took those lessons to talk about with him.

A similar google for Isla turns up drama school before her films and yoga classes for mommy and baby.

A few biographies for Garner mention she had been a chemistry major before she pursued acting. Nothing more recent.

Gwyneth's google yielded more yoga and speculation about her children's prep school.

I found an interesting guess in my searching though, David Duchovny and Tea Leoni. He went to Yale and was pursuing his graduate degree when he fell into acting. She dropped out of Sarah Lawrence. Maybe their relationship battles have been his attempts to get away from her, rather than the other way around (which would fit the blind's assertion that everyone has assumed SHE would leave HIM.)

sistah2 said...

interesting guess for woody/soon yi. but I cant see anyone around him telling him NOT to leave her. its seems most people wouldnt care, since she was practically his stepdaughter to begin with.

XXXXXX said...

Julia Roberts and Daniel Moder

It's all in the punctuation:
"...she will finally leave him because he won't, ever, change." = Julia's recent movie "Love, Wedding, Marriage"
"she wanted to be able to talk to him about...things?" = "Something To Talk About" and Julia attended/observed/etc. classes at NYU for "Mona Lisa Smile"
"She wanted to be able to keep up...She wanted HIM to know/believe/think she could keep up" = Daniel's recent project "In My Dreams I Run Wild" and Julia's participation in DMB's "Dreamgirl" video ("Runaway Bride" may or may not be implied)and the obvious "know/believe/think" = "Eat Pray Love"
"She worships his brain." = Years ago, Julia told Oprah she "worships his mind".
"They say that he's been trying to get out" = recent speculation of her being with Javier Bardem and her always falling for her costars.
"even if he were to want to bail, everyone in his life would be against it, and has warned him of the consequences" = Daniel's work on "Enemy Of The State"

After the less than ideal beginning of their relationship (Daniel still being married), it would be devastating publicly and career-wise for her. After all, she has children to feed and limited job skills. Kinda reminds you of Angelina and Brad?

Zara said...

@XXXXXX Ha! I don't think Julia Roberts has to worry about having enough money to feed her children. She's definitely the breadwinner in that family. As for limited job skills - she's an actress! JR will definitely be able to find work, don't worry.

TMS074 said...

I am totally digging the Roberts / Moder guess! Although I thought maybe Cohen / Fisher, Lainey NEVER blogs about them, but she does blog about Julia Roberts. Plus the whole comment about not getting enough credit for her tenacity could refer to how she bailed out of all of her previous relationships so quickly. And chances are he would suffer way more consequences (career-wise) from a split than she would...hence why he hasn't tried to leave. Good job @XXXXXX!

BABYWOMAN said...

The only one who came to mind but it's prob way off is Christy Turlington and Ed Burns. I remember reading he told her he will only marry her if she completed some uni classes and she did! I was so outraged by that! But they're off the radar aren't they?

Rita said...

Babywoman - a great guess! Except we never hear about this couple. Almost never on Lainey's blog anyways.

As for Roberts / Moder, I always thought that he was under her thumb. And quite obviously, HIS family would only be TOO happy if he got out of that marriage. They never liked her, and there always reports how she drudges up drama during get togethers, and how badly she mistreats his sisters. Addicts or obese.

pomme said...

Lainey is totally obsessed by Bennifer,Goopy/Martin,Hathaway,Brangelina,Lopez divorce and Dicaprio/Lively actually

lelale said...

It's Garner she took poli sci classes on line
Former ALIAS star JENNIFER GARNER is taking a political science class online to help her keep up with politically active husband BEN AFFLECK.
09/03/2007
http://www.contactmusic.com/photos.nsf/main/jennifer-garner-and-her-daughter-violet-affleck-out-shopping-in_3288008

Rita said...

Lelale - great find! wish only if Lainey could give more hints or talk about the blinds on her blog.

JJ said...

I agree with the Garner guess. Look at this post today from Lainey. In particular at the end.

http://tinyurl.com/3tzk8he

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Daisy said...

At first I agreed with the Isla Fisher/SBC guess because she did seem pretty desperate to be with him and his family is very strict but many of you mentioned that Lainey doesn't talk about them enough... which kind of goes against "So much speculation and it's been going on for years that she will finally leave him because he won't, ever, change." SBC doesn't have a particularly high-profile personal life, but Ben Affleck is synonymous with cheating, gambling etc. Then I found this...

"Garner is also rather brighter than many of her peers, a quality she shares with Affleck, though she is the first to admit that even she is a little intimidated by her husband's brain. "Sometimes I think, 'Oh gosh, I'd better read the paper so I can talk to my husband!'" she laughs. "I can hold my own with him, though. I hate to break it to him, but he likes to think, 'Can you believe how smart I am?' He'll be teasing me and I'll say, 'Yes, actually, I can. I'm astounded that you can keep up with me most of the time.' And I'll promise you one thing: he is not boring. You can't get him to go out somewhere, but at least you can have a good conversation with him. Just as long as you're willing not to leave the couch."

"After filming The Kingdom, set in the aftermath of a terrorist attack on a US base in Saudi Arabia, Garner signed up for an online political science class. "The Kingdom was an education in and of itself. I realised it is a much more complicated world than what the movies show and I was compelled to find out more."

(http://www.independent.co.uk/arts-entertainment/films/features/jennifer-garner-i-feel-like-i-kind-of-have-it-all-773535.html)

Now I'm sure it's Bennifer 2.0

pomme said...

@daisy: if they're Bennifer 2.0,it's a no-blind item :they won't divorce because of the kids

Rita said...

Lainey answered one of her blinds today regarding Lizzie McGuire and her unfaithful husband. will head to that post and add link.

EnglishBarb said...

When I 1st read it I thought SJP & Matthew Broderick, mainly due to the sadly desperate tone BUT... Chris Martin went to public school and has a 1st class degree in Greek & latin. It's Goopy.

Gaylen said...

IF this is really about Garner and Affleck, then Lainey is certainly letting her bias influence her description here. What little I've read from her, she hates Jen.

So to paint Jen's taking PoliSci class as her being a ditz who worships her husband because of his book learnin is silly. Jen was a chemistry major in college. She's not an idiot who would need to go back to school in order to have a conversation. Without Lainey's spin, it sounds like Jen wanted to know more about one of Ben's interests. Gasp! The horror! At least it's more entertaining than the vast knowledge I've acquired about Call of Duty games, which is my husband's hobby. It's not pathetic to take an interest in something your spouse cares about.

Jenn said...

Lainey hints to this big time in todays post about Affleck/Garner announcing their pregnancy.

Rita said...

Very true Jenn. Strong answers in today's post on the new Garner/Affleck pregnancy.

Here is the link:

http://www.laineygossip.com/Jennifer_Garner_Ben_Affleck_expecting_third_child_23aug11.aspx?CatID=0&CelID=0

'Jennifer Garner worships Ben Affleck. There was NEVER a possibility that he was leaving, and there was never a possibility that she would leave him. Remember these photos of the two at the Critics’ Choice Awards in January? It’s not even Photo Assumption, it’s ANY assumption that says she hangs on his every word. Always has.'

VEry telling with the whold tone of the post as well. Ben is trapped, and there was never a possibility for him to get out.

Fifth Year said...

@Jenn: I would almost say she straight out reveals! In the blind she says "She worships his brain" and today she says "Jennifer Garner worships Ben Affleck".

Use of the same word and pretty much the same sentence structure cinches it for.

Rita said...

That's what Lainey does: unlike CDAN who labels 'Blind Item Revealed' to let you know that he is revealing, Lainey has been know to give off strong hints in any of her posts, whether they be in her Smutty Tingles, or Shout Outs. You just have to pay attention. I remember once I found her reveal on Jen Aniston sleeping with Josh Hopkins while watching her on eTalk, the night right after she posted her blind on her site!

lelale said...

She all but revealed it today I have never seen such a strong hint as this I think it's the most you'd ever get from Lainey on a blind.

http://www.laineygossip.com/Jennifer_Garner_Ben_Affleck_expecting_third_child_23aug11.aspx

pomme said...

it's weird her 2 last recent blind riddles are so obvious

Rita said...

I think today's comment on Lainey confirms it even more that this is Jen Garner and Affleck:

http://www.laineygossip.com/Articles/Details/21688/Ben-Affleck-shows-tenderness-and-affection-to-pregnant-wife-Jennifer-Garner

blurry vice said...

http://www.torontolife.com/daily/hype/the-fame-monsters/2012/06/26/2012-smut-soiree-toronto/

Lainey revealed this at her smut soiree to be jennifer garner and ben affleck ... so the gossip girl he cheated with is blake lively. who is the bond girl?

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